Individuals who have been in sexless marriages
Individuals who have been celibate
Individuals who have been married to their careers
“Shift your idea to what “real sex” is. Learn that real sex is not just about intercourse and orgasm. Some of the hottest erotic experiences imaginable often do not include either one. Shift your emphasis from orgasm to touching, kissing, stroking. . .”
— Pamela Madsen
Reaching connection with each other
One of the frequent searches on Google is “sexless marriage” according to Seth Stephens-Davidowitz, a researcher. It is important to recognize that there are several factors that may be involved in low sexual desire within a relationship. Medical illness, medication side affects and hormonal problems are common problems that need to be ruled out with a physician. For baby boomer couples, the culprit may be a health issue like low estrogen levels for women and decreased testosterne levels for men.
Once the medical concerns are ruled out, then it it time to look at the emotional issues in a relationship. Women as well as men report low sexual desire; lesbian and gay couples struggle with sexual desire issues, too. Resentment is one common factor in preventing couples from sexual expression. Learning new communication tools can help couples to loosen old resentments that may be interfering in sexual expression.
Yet there is good news for baby boomers; according to Sallie Foley, MSW, University of Michigan states that AARP studies show that 65% of married couples remain sexually active.
Individuals who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or queer (LGBTQ)
First of all, this is time to acknowledge that our current socio-political environment outside of the San Francisco Bay Area is challenging for sexual minorities.
In working with lesbain, bisexual, gay, and transgender clients, I understand the role of stigma in the LBGT experience as a sexual minority. As with all my clients, I create a sense of a safety net for the individual in the counseling session. I am aware that my lesbian, bisexual, gay or transgender clients are the expert on their subgroup culture. Affirming their sexual orientation, I provide supportive counseling to reach their fullest potential.
You can fall in love at any age
Midlife is a new exploration time
Research by Dr. Helen Fisher supports the notion that people in their 80s and 90s can fall in love with the same rush of brain chemicals as people in their younger years experience. You can fall in love at any age. Midlife is the ideal time to explore your enduring sexuality and passion for life.
Dr. Fisher shares in this video that 3 different brain systems govern love: sexual drive, romantic attraction, and deep attachment. These brain systems are not changing due to technology. From a study of 1100 married couples, Dr. Fisher discovered that 81% would remarry the same partner.